Monday, September 5, 2011

On my soap box again...

So just because I'm pregnant, very pregnant, doesn't mean I have forgotten about the fertility challenges that got us here and something in the land of facebook has been eating at me this week. I know most of the people following this blog are ladies and many of you have probably gotten a message about changing your facebook status to support breast cancer awareness. Last year you were supposed to write the color of your bra, the year before the location of your handbag...harmless enough, not sure how it's supporting breast cancer awareness, but that's beside the point. This year, the status update is a code with your birthday that leaves you writing "I'm ______ weeks and craving______." This also may seem harmless enough. Now imagine, you've been struggling to start a family or just had a miscarriage and post this and get all the "does this mean what I think it means?!" and "oooh, congratulations, so excited for you!!" as responses from those who see this status. Now you have to explain to the world that you are in fact, not pregnant. For the most part, those of us who are experiencing or have experienced fertility issues will simply not repost, because it is just too painful to write something that gives the world the idea that you might be pregnant. I don't know if there is an organization behind the facebook status thing, or how it came about, but I really don't think they thought this one through very well. One women's health issue for another doesn't seem like a very good way to spread awareness. Go back to silly things like bra colors and I'll play, but reminding women who are struggling with fertility issues or grieving after a miscarriage that they are, in fact, only playing a game and not actually pregnant is cruel and needs a second thought! (Whew, I suppose there should have been paragraphs in this one, but it's been building up for a week so I just spewed it out!)

5 comments:

  1. I love your soap box, and I couldn't agree with it more. :)

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  2. I agree! I am all for increasing awareness, but there are much more sensible ways to go about it---this most recent one seems even farther from the original goal than others have in the past! Thanks for sharing your thoughts with all of us!

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  3. Agreed and appreciated - thanks Ariane!

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  4. I totally agree with you Ariane - your post hit the nail right on the head!

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  5. Thanks for your support ladies!

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